UVA Alumnae Community

What is your UVA story?

I came to UVA in large part thanks to the Echols Scholars Program. I was deciding between UVA and Duke, and the opportunity to have the academic flexibility that came as part of that program was very appealing. My parents also told me if I went in-state they would pay for grad school so that was also a consideration.

What did you do when you were a student at UVA?

I was a Resident Advisor, a member of University Democrats, a member of The Jefferson Literary & Debating Society, and through Class Trustees chaired the Graduation Committee.

Is there something you learned at UVA that you apply to your life now?

That there is always a lot of opportunity and you have to find your place/make things happen. UVA is a big school with lots to explore — academic, extracurricular and social. Try different things, find the things that are interesting and meaningful to you, and pursue those.

What does the UVA alumnae community mean to you? How have fellow alumnae affected your life/career/journey?

Well, besides meeting my husband at UVA, which has obviously been very impactful, I have been lucky to keep in touch with my close circle of college friends even 20 years later. Having a set of friends who go through life with you is an amazing support. My career has also been very positively influenced by fellow alums. I have a lot to be thankful for in life that comes back to UVA.

If you could impart a piece of advice to a female student on Grounds today, what would you tell her?

Besides study and do whatever genuinely interests you the most, I would tell her that if she is interested in having a spouse/partner one day, to be thoughtful about whether that person will truly support her goals — career, family, and otherwise. Not just in the next 5-10 years but beyond that. I have been fortunate that my husband is one my biggest advocates and has been since I met him third year.  He has always supported my goals — whether heading to law school, different jobs in different cities, and around our family life. Having someone who not only believes in you but then actually acts to support you each day is important.

Sarah Kelley is part of a group of “hidden nurses” who were educated at UVA in the 1950s and 1960s and became trailblazers and community leaders in the effort to desegregate the UVA Hospital, but did not receive full alumni status from the University until 2019. A project undertaken by professor and Bjoring Center for Nursing Historical Inquiry director Barbra Mann Wall and PhD student Tori Tucker shed light on the stories of the hidden nurses. Last spring, Sarah Kelley and her classmates were honored at “a ceremony recognizing the contributions [they] made to nursing, desegregation and to racial equity” and officially joined the UVA alumni ranks.

Tell us a few things about yourself (family, studies, activities, things that bring you joy).

I’m an activist for equality and equity. If I’m able to do it, I want to be able to do it. And I want my children to be able to do it, and my grandchildren.

What was your journey after leaving UVA?

I still love nursing. I love it. I just did not love the hours and I could never get adjusted. I just knew I needed another profession. I’m now a pastor. I’ve been pastoring for 35 years.

If you could impart a piece of advice to a female student on Grounds today, what would you tell her?

Patience. Patience. You have to have patience when you’re working with people.

Tell us a few things about yourself (family, job, things that bring you joy).

I'm a trial attorney at a law firm in Washington, D.C. I represent plaintiffs in complex litigation (basically I fight for the little guy)! I am married to my husband of 11 years (who also went to UVA Law). We have 3 energetic kids. In addition to spending time with my family, I love traveling, reading and cooking. 

Is there something you learned at UVA that you apply to your life now?

I was fortunate to attend the Law School (in my opinion, the BEST in the country). What sets us apart is that students are not only smart and engaged, they are also multi-dimensional and seek a collegial environment. I made some of my best friends at UVA — and I didn't want my time at UVA to end. The best lesson I learned is that things don't need to be "either/or." They can be "both/and." I never believed that I had to be either a mother/wife or a lawyer. I saw so many brilliant examples of women who were both. 

What does the UVA alumnae community mean to you? How have fellow alumnae affected your life/career/journey?

UVA Law and its alumnae are the entire reason I am here today. I was mentored by two UVA alums at Sidley Austin LLP, who helped me tremendously in my career. When I moved back to Charlottesville, I was hired by the Law School and then subsequently introduced to and hired by attorneys, also UVA alums, via a UVA Law professor. My husband, siblings and my best friends are all UVA alums! 

In your opinion, what is the legacy of women on UVA?

I think the legacy of women at UVA is a complicated one. Anytime you exclude a section of the population from an educational opportunity, you create a chasm that takes a long time to fill. I think the University has taken significant steps to repair mistakes made, but we have a long way to go until all groups can feel like UVA is the welcoming place we strive to be. We can be great and good— and I applaud the University for striving to do that. 

If you could impart a piece of advice to a female student on Grounds today, what would you tell her?

Don't think too much — get out and do it! As a student and as a young lawyer, I would often think about how I was going to balance everything. When I learned to accept that life is going to be chaotic and challenging, it made the days a lot easier. If you think too much about how you're going to do it all, you won't get out of bed in the morning. But once you start doing it, things fall into place. 

Is there anything related to women’s history at the University that you would like to learn more about?

I'd love to hear more about the experiences of some of the first women who entered UVA— why did they do it?  I can't imagine it was easy. How did they rise above it?

What is your favorite UVA memory?

No one memory is my favorite. Being a successful coach of amazing women gives you hundreds of favorites! Having incredible doctors when I had pancreatic cancer also gave me some favorite memories, the best being living beyond a disease that is lethal to most who are afflicted with it.

Tell us about a woman/women at UVA who inspires you – now, or during your time on Grounds.

Sybil Todd was an amazing Dean of Students and I learned a lot from her. Pat Lampkin is a hidden gem at UVA and always has sage advice to help you through a tough situation. Barbara Kelly taught me to keep trying even when I got no for an answer. She used to say “no” meant “maybe later” but it stuck with me because it was hard back then to get things done in athletics for women.

In your opinion, what is the legacy of women on UVA?

Women have overcome a lot here at UVA. Nothing was given and all was earned, as Bronco Mendenhall would say. Never giving up and never taking no as the final answer probably propelled women to where they are today. People have no idea what women went through in the 70’s, 80’s and 90’s to cement their place here. We had to prove ourselves several times over during those years. There were many men, though, who stood up for us/with us during those times and they helped us find our way here! They were the great leaders of the University because they believed that all should be welcomed here.

If you could impart a piece of advice to a female student on Grounds today, what would you tell her?

Learn the history and honor those who fought to be here as viable, respected students, professors and professional people from all walks of life. Everything you have now is because of others who fought for all you have at UVA. Men and women worked together to make your attendance here a reality.

Tell us a few things about yourself (family, job, things that bring you joy).

I’m a recent UVA grad with degrees in American Studies and History and wrote my thesis on the musical “Showboat.” My little brother is a first year and my mom also attended UVA. I am engaged to an even more recent UVA grad. As an undergrad, I had an internship with the UVA Bicentennial Commission which I loved because I got to research UVA’s history. Now I work for the Alumni Association and have become really interested in higher education and increasing opportunities for everyone to learn and study at a high level. I’m hoping to get my master’s soon. In my free time I like to read and volunteer at Live Arts, a community theater organization in Charlottesville.

Is there something you learned at UVA that you apply to your life now?

Academically, I learned so much about the world around me. I was fortunate to take a lot of classes that explored race, gender, socioeconomic status, and more. UVA ensured I would walk with my eyes wide open. My first year on Grounds was the year Hannah Graham disappeared, Martese Johnson sustained a head injury while being arrested on the Corner and the “Rolling Stone” article was published. August 11 and 12 marked the start of my fourth year. UVA seemed to always be in the spotlight. There were a lot of debates and concerns on Grounds regarding safety and race. At graduation, Teresa Sullivan said our class was resilient, having been at the University when so much was going on. I’d like to think that in addition to resiliency, my fellow graduates and I also learned empathy. That when these things happen, it is so important to not only hold your loved ones close  but also to look out at others with love and compassion. Being able to say: I don’t know what your experience must feel like but I am here for you and I will stand together with you in the face of adversity.

If you could impart a piece of advice to a female student on Grounds today, what would you tell her?

To a first year, I would tell her it’s all going to be ok. If something isn’t working out now, don’t worry because you have the power to make it better. If a club or a major isn’t what you thought it was going to be, you don’t have to stick with it. College is the chance to explore everything. To a second or third year, I would say take time for yourself. It’s easy to be caught up in wanting to be part of everything. Make sure you are listening to yourself and focus on your needs. To a fourth year, I’d say you’ve almost made it baby! You’ve worked so incredibly hard to get where you are and it’s all going to work out.

Tell us a few things about yourself (family, job, things that bring you joy).

I am a busy, comfortable and happy woman. I live in a small house on tree farm with my cat and dogs. I describe myself as a naturalist striving to promote native Virginia plants and animals.

What did you do when you were a student at UVA?

I loved my undergraduate studies as I enrolled in the Secondary Math curriculum and did student teaching at Albemarle High School. I took courses in the College, the Engineering School, and the Education School. I was the only female in most of my classes but was always treated with respect and challenged in the best way by my professors and classmates. I was fortunate to have had a very broad liberal arts curriculum including math, psychology, economics, computer languages and English as well as education courses. I earned my PE credit by taking the absolute best health class imaginable. I am convinced that I had a much better education at UVA than I had had elsewhere.

Is there something you learned at UVA that you apply to your life now?

I have had a wonderful professional career as a secondary mathematics teacher, a psychology assistant and a school administrator. I consider my UVA experience to have been significant throughout my time as an educator. Honor, sportsmanship, empathy, character and respect have been guiding principles throughout my time as an educator. I am very grateful for my time at UVA as a woman, student and participant from the 1960s until now! UVA has also had a profound effect on my family. My daughter earned a BA in 1993 and worked as a hospital administrator at UVA. My son is currently a stroke neurologist at UVA and lives in Charlottesville with his family. He was born at UVA Hospital as were all four of my grandchildren.

Tell us a favorite UVA memory.

My recent involvement in the 1969 50th Reunion was a delightful experience and surprise. My former husband and father of my children was extremely helpful in both the planning and execution of the weekend event. We spent the weekend reconnecting with many former classmates. As a result, he and I have resumed our relationship after 28 years apart!

Tell us a few things about yourself (family, studies, activities, things that bring you joy).

I love community building. I think the recipe for the perfect day is to have good company, good food, and good music. If you give me a day with that included, I am more than happy. That is why I love to cook for other people, and I often lend my big speaker to speaker to people who want to use it for events.

What is your favorite UVA memory?

On Mexican Independence Day, a group of us met at the Rotunda with a speaker and sang and danced to our cultural music. We then wrapped our flag on the Homer statue on the South Lawn and let out our Mexican gritos. It was such a heartwarming and wholesome moment, and has now become a tradition that includes many Central American countries - we all wrap our flags on the Homer Statue and celebrate our home countries.

How have UVA alumnae affected your life/career/journey?

When I think of alumnae here, I immediately think of my Hermanas from my sorority. I am very close to them and we often share words of wisdom and encouragement to one another. They provide me with both a support network but also a professional network that can give me pointers on how to be a woman of color in the workplace, and that can connect me to people who can help me advance in my future career. They are an amazing group of women that I will forever hold close to my heart.

If you could ask a female graduate for one piece of advice, what would you ask her?

What is the best way to stand up and defend yourself without being stereotyped?

What are you most involved in as a student at UVA?

My principal involvement at UVA has been as an Honor support officer and Committee member. I was l selected as a support officer my first year, and worked in various capacities over the following three years before being elected to serve as a representative for the College of Arts & Sciences and the chair of the Committee.  I have been fortunate to have abundant opportunities to serve the University community and work with other students, staff and administrators to bring about positive change.

What lesson/lessons have you learned at UVA that you apply to your daily life?

Of the many, many lessons I have learned at UVA, there are two that rank as the most important. The first is that one can find great joy and meaning by fully immersing themselves in what calls them most strongly. I had received this advice before coming to UVA, but it wasn’t until I came to care deeply about the Honor System and felt invested in its impact that I understood the importance of going all in on the things you love and leaving the other things to the people who love them. The second lesson is that character is the most important part of a person. Part of what binds the UVA community together is that we share both an academic education and an ethical one. At UVA, I have been challenged to think deeply about who I am, the ways my behavior and decisions impact others, and what my priorities are and will be when faced with difficult situations. UVA has taught me how to be more intentional in how I spend my time and energy, my self-development, and my impact on others and the world around me.

What does the UVA alumnae community mean to you? How have fellow alumnae affected your life/career/journey?

The UVA alumnae that I have interacted with over the past few years have been a source of support, knowledge and encouragement as I have learned to navigate the University. They have served as role models and been incredibly kind and helpful when I have reached out with questions or requests. I imagine that I will continue to find the UVA alumnae community of great value in providing guidance as I begin my career.

If you could ask a female graduate for one piece of advice, what would you ask her?

I would ask her what she wished she had known when she was my age, graduating from UVA and beginning her career, and what the theory guiding her approach to this transition was.

What did you do when you were a student at UVA?

I was in the College second year taking 18 hours in order to satisfy the prerequisites to apply to the School of Nursing. I got in and was delighted to be assigned to Mallet Dorm, where I met my two roommates who are very dear friends to this day. I was a cheerleader my third year and loved the atmosphere in U-Hall during the basketball games. Easters was always a special event, with great bands and lots of frolicking in the mud in Mad Bowl. We also took advantage of the Shenandoah and spent weekends in cabins in the park. Studying was a high priority because I knew I had to learn enough to pass the Nursing Boards after graduation, which were required to get a job. The stacks in Alderman were my favorite place to study. I occasionally worked as an aide in the hospital to get hands-on experience. 

Is there something you learned at UVA that you apply to your life now?

I learned that the more effort you put into an endeavor, the more you get out of it. If you study harder, you get better grades. If you throw yourself into your patient care, their outcome is better and you get more gratification out of it.  This applies to raising a family as well.  

Tell us about a woman/women at UVA who inspires you – now, or during your time on Grounds.

A woman who whom I greatly admire is Dean Dorrie Fontaine, recently retired dean of the Nursing School. During her 12-year tenure, she was a strong proponent of compassionate nursing, mindfulness, and uniting the University with the community.  

In your opinion, what is the legacy of women on UVA?

The legacy of women at the University, I believe, is that they have proven to be strong minded, smart, willing to take chances, and in many cases not afraid to take on incredible challenges and succeed.

If you could impart a piece of advice to a female student on Grounds today, what would you tell her?

Cherish every day, even the rainy ones when you have exams. Your time here will go by fast, so take time to soak up the energy here and thrive.

Allison St. Clair Schildwachter (Mother)

How did you decide to come to UVA?

I went to a large high school in Northern Virginia. When UVA began accepting women with the class ahead of me, many of us applied — we really had no clue whether we’d get in!

What did you do when you were a student at UVA?

At Virginia I became a counselor (as they were called then — now Resident Advisors) in Humphries and then became Senior Counselor of Dabney. I loved the old dorms and our Resident Staff group. I have good friends that I still keep up with from the Counseling staff. My fourth year I served on Judiciary from the Education School and I was fortunate to be able to live on the Lawn. That was a great group — I loved spending time with them.

What does the UVA alumnae community mean to you?

I love my UVA friends. I have been blessed to have some live fairly close, and I enjoy our UVA reunions. I think we all value our friendships even more as we’ve gotten older. When we are together we still have that connection because of having that history together, even though I don’t see some all that often.

If you could impart a piece of advice to a female student on Grounds today, what would you tell her?

I would say to get involved. There is so much opportunity to try new things and belong to organizations at this point. Find something that you enjoy — stretch yourself and don’t stay in a safe zone just with students you know from your high school or hometown.

Brooke Schildwachter Kilfoil (Daughter)

What is your favorite UVA memory?

Walking around the Rotunda and processing down the steps with my medical school classmates is by far my favorite memory. I ran up and down those steps often as a child and heard my parents talk about graduation on the Lawn, so it was very special to be part of a ceremony that holds so much meaning.

What was your journey after leaving UVA?

I joined Jefferson Ob-Gyn in Charlottesville after graduating from my residency at the School of Medicine, so I haven't left!

What lesson/lessons have you learned at UVA that you apply to your daily life?

Embrace the uncertainty and vulnerability of the unknown and of new experiences. It is the only way to grow.

Tell us about a woman/women at UVA who inspires you – now, or during your time on Grounds

As a student and resident at the School of Medicine, I was inspired by women conducting research, teaching students, treating patients, or on call in the hospital who also had families and fruitful lives outside of work. These women are excellent clinicians and surgeons, but they’re also mothers, partners, singers, runners – so many things beyond their jobs.

If you could impart a piece of advice to a female student on Grounds today, what would you tell her?

Learn to be an excellent listener. People have such vast and rich stories and experiences. Sit down, pause, look someone in the eye and say "tell me more.” It almost always opens the door to deeper human connection.

What did you do when you were a student at UVA?

As an undergraduate, I held many leadership positions across all realms of the University. I am a member of the 2014 Class Trustees and served as a co-chair for the 2014 Class Giving Campaign in which our class reached an unprecedented 81% participation rate. I also led the Virginia Women’s Club Water Polo team as captain for two years, and served as recruitment chair and chapter president of Alpha Chi Omega. Additionally, I interned with the office of the Board of Visitors and the Virginia Athletics Foundation, served on the committee to plan Lighting of the Lawn, and worked Reunions weekend.

What is your favorite UVA memory?

My time at UVA coincided with the rise of UVA men’s basketball. I’m a huge college sports fan and traveled to a number of ACC and NCAA tournament games. One of my favorite experiences was the game against Coastal Carolina. It was way too close for comfort and the whole building was cheering against us, but the team remain focused and pulled out a win. My favorite recent UVA memory was road tripping to Minneapolis for the Final Four. My husband and I drove 17 hours in a day and had the best time with friends that weekend. I think the Auburn game took years off my life, but it was such a beautiful moment of perseverance, focus and pure joy. 

In your opinion, what is the legacy of women on UVA?

Like Maria from “My Big Fat Greek Wedding” said, “the man is the head, but the woman is the neck and she can turn the head any way she wants.” I think this applies perfectly to the legacy of women on UVA. Women may have not always been permitted the same experiences at UVA as men, but they were integral to the founding, sustaining and overall success of this institution. 

If you could impart a piece of advice to a female student on Grounds today, what would you tell her?

Learn how to say no. You will meet amazing people, learn new things, and experience life in a whole new environment. With all this freedom, take control and realize you can’t say yes to every invite, leadership role or request. Say yes often, but make sure you focus on your holistic personal development. 

Tell us a few things about yourself (family, studies, activities, things that bring you joy).

I’ve always loved reading and writing! My mother’s a librarian and teacher so I’ve spent my life surrounded by books and writing my own stories. Poetry has been especially important to me in the last couple of years and whenever I want to unwind I just jot down some random stanzas. Fashion has also always been a huge interest of mine—I sew and studied fashion construction in high school. I can spend hours searching through a thrift store and putting together new looks. It’s so much fun exploring my personal style and getting creative with my closet. Outside of that, I have a huge interest in studying political psychology and, recently, educational anthropology. I’ve always been fascinated by how people think, create, and exchange information, so both disciplines really offer me the opportunity to explore the complexities of human behavior and culture.

Tell us about a woman/women at UVA who inspires you.

I give so much praise to Dean Valerie Gregory, who was the first person) from UVA I met during my college search. She has the biggest heart and made me feel so welcomed before even coming to Grounds. The work she does to bring more diversity to UVA is beyond admirable. It’s been amazing to work with her through the OSAC Office of Admission’s Outreach Office and she inspires me to take pride in my identity and promote inclusivity. I’m also so grateful to work with Funlola Fagbohun and Sarah Dodge through Summer Orientation. They’re two women who energize me and remind me so often to take care of myself and pursue things I’m passionate about.   I also have to give tremendous recognition to Dr. Danielle Wingfield-Smith, a professor in the Curry School of Education who’s made my University experience feel all the more whole. She’s the first Black woman educator I’ve had since kindergarten and a woman who I look up to in so many ways. SShe’s funny, honest, willing to build genuine relationships with her students, and has accomplished so much. Finally, I can’t gush enough about Ms. Kathy—the Queen of UVA in my honest opinion. There’s not another person on Grounds who I feel can light up a room and make people feel so immensely welcome in the way that Ms. Kathy can. I’ll visit Newcomb for the sole purpose of seeing her.  

In your opinion, what is the legacy of women on UVA?

The women of UVA raise the bar; they’re trendsetters who and continue to use their voices to mobilize their respective communities and promote critical reflection. Through good times and bad, it has often been the women of UVA who gracefully tackle situations across Grounds and push everyone to become better individuals. The women here are organizers, educators, and role models for so many people and they make look it so easy, even when they aren’t given the recognition they deserve. I think the legacy of women at UVA is changing for the better. With each graduating class, we’re seeing more and more women enter amazing fields and dominate in them. I believe the legacy of women at UVA centers around opening doors and breaking down barriers with grace, wisdom, and compassion.

If you could ask a female graduate for one piece of advice, what would you ask her?

How has your perception of womanhood changed over time and how has that change in perception enabled you to achieve your goals?

How did you decide to come to UVA?

I’m from Northern Virginia and the child of immigrants. My family and I were grateful that Virginia has such a great in-state school, and I was even more grateful once I got here and realized how much I would grow from the experience.

What is your favorite UVA memory?

It’s a tie. Walking the Lawn to receive my master’s degree seven months pregnant with my oldest son, Bodhi. Celebrating the win over Duke in men’s basketball in February 2007. It was the year John Paul Jones Arena opened and my husband and I were dedicated student fans (along with a friend of ours) who waited in lines, attended many sporting events and cheered enthusiastically at every game. It was a wonderful atmosphere and a beautiful memory.

Is there something you learned at UVA that you apply to your life now?

Be open, be present, make meaningful connections.

Tell us about a woman/women at UVA who inspires you – now, or during your time on Grounds.

• Dr. Vivian Pinn [the first full-time director of the Office of Research on Women’s Health and associate director for research on women’s health at the National Institutes of Health (NIH), positions she held from 1991 until her retirement in 2011. She earned her M.D. from the University of Virginia School of Medicine and was the only woman or minority in her class; the UVA School of Medicine has named one of its four advisory medical student colleges ‘The Pinn College’ in her honor.]
• Dr. Jeanne Alhusen [associate professor and acting assistant dean of research at the UVA School of Nursing. Her research focuses on improving maternal mental health and in turn improving early childhood outcomes, particularly for families living in poverty. In 2018, Dr. Alhusen was chosen by the American Association of Colleges of Nursing for its 2018 Leadership for Academic Nursing Program.]

What did you do when you were a student at UVA?

I discovered myself! I made my lifelong friends; I explored classes and experiences that broadened my horizons and my learning opportunities. My most memorable experience was studying abroad in Avignon, France during my third year. Who knew! I also worked during my fourth year for University Catering behind the scenes for major dinners and events. I also spent time with the Luther P. Jackson House outreach programs as a student ambassador. I am confident that I am the woman I am today because of a variety of people and experiences during my four years as an undergrad and then subsequent opportunities as a graduate student.

Is there something you learned at UVA that you apply to your life now?

I learned to speak up and speak out on issues that matter and to create space for everyone so that our experiences are more complete. I also learned that self-governance is a privilege, and yet it requires responsibility. And I knew this before UVA, but my time there reinforced it: education is so important and a privilege to be appreciated (my grandparents always reminded me of how important a college education would be for me).

What does the UVA alumnae community mean to you? How have fellow alumnae affected your life/career/journey?

I am proud to be a UVA alumna and I’ve met so many impressive women who are also ‘Hoos!  It’s a diverse group and yet our common thread is impact! We show up! Most of the women I know who are UVA alumnae have made a difference in their respective spaces and created opportunities for others (and other women), simply by representing the University. I know one of the women (African American) who was in the first class of women and she was so proud to meet me so many years later—I reconnected her to UVA after a long sabbatical. I have also always been so grateful for the ways in which alumnae are willing to support each other and help make connections.

If you could impart a piece of advice to a female student on Grounds today, what would you tell her?

This is the time and place to stretch your wings!  There are no boundaries. . .and UVA is a great safety net.

Tell us about a woman/women at UVA who inspires you.

One UVA woman who inspires me is Yeardley Love. Yeardley Love was a women's lacrosse player who was supposed to graduate in 2010, but was killed by her ex-boyfriend weeks before her graduation. Although for many Yeardley may represent a dark time in UVA history, she is a light in my world at UVA and beyond. My mom, sister, and I went to watch Yeardley play just weeks before she was killed, and she showed so much kindness to my sister and I after the game that I couldn’t stop talking about her the entire ride home.  When she was killed, it shocked the entire lacrosse community and the One Love Foundation emerged as Yeardley's legacy. I participated in a few One Love fundraisers growing up but it wasn't until I arrived at UVA that I really got involved, because I realized that UVA was where she was loved by everyone as a leader on and off the field.  Since that realization, I currently lead UVA's chapter of the One Love Foundation and have helped educate countless student organizations about the warning signs of unhealthy and abusive relationships to help young people in the University community foster healthy, positive relationships throughout their lives. As we approach the 10th anniversary of Yeardley's death, I reflect on the one million people nationally who have received One Love's education and all the lives Yeardley's legacy has saved. 

What are you most involved in as a student at UVA?

Since I’ve been at UVA, I’ve discovered many passions beyond lacrosse that I didn't have the time to discover before, including serving others through Alternative Spring Break, learning about effective policymaking through the Batten School, and bringing classmates together through Class Council. The people I have met at UVA inspire me to be a better friend, a stronger leader, a more engaged citizen and braver woman. 

What lesson/lessons have you learned at UVA that you apply to your daily life?

In order to learn from the people around you, you must be willing to listen. I have learned so much at UVA about the world by just listening to my hallmates', sorority sisters', professors' and classmates' opinions, passions and experiences. UVA is full of difference beyond what the eye can see; everyone has their own story that has shaped who they are and what they think, and listening to those stories have made me a more patient and empathetic person. 

If you could ask a female graduate for one piece of advice, what would you ask her?

I would want advice from women in male-dominated career fields about how they navigate their industry, and what their most positive and negative experiences within those spaces have been.

Is there anything related to women’s history at the University that you would like to learn more about?

I want to learn more about why it took the University so long to fully accept female applicants. I still cannot wrap my head around the fact that women were not fully accepted into the University until 1970 while schools in the deeper south accepted women as early as 1882. 

Pamela Feinour Edmonds (Mother)

Tell us a few things about yourself (family, job, things that bring you joy).

I met my husband of 25 years in Bonneycastle dorm in the fall of 1987. I graduated from the College with a degree in Rhetoric and Communications in 1991. Frank Edmonds, my husband, also graduated from the College in 1991 and received his JD/MBA from UVA in 1996.  We moved to NYC for 10 years and moved back to Charlottesville in 2006.  Our three children, Holland (20), Allie (18), and Spicer (14) were all born in NYC but have loved growing up in Charlottesville. I find joy in playing leadership roles and getting others engaged in organizations I am passionate about. Whether it is at UVA, JDRF (Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation), the Paramount Theater, my children's school or James Madison's Montpelier, I enjoy getting involved as much as I can.  

What is your favorite UVA memory?

There are too many to count. My most recent is my daughter’s acceptance to UVA this fall. The National Championship in Minneapolis in April 2019 is a close second, but my undergraduate memories are too many to recount.

Is there something you learned at UVA that you apply to your life now?

That it is OK to be passionate and enthusiastic about people and organizations you are committed to and inspired by. 

Tell us about a woman/women at UVA who inspires you – now, or during your time on Grounds.

Pat Lampkin—her commitment to students and her genuine interest in their success and happiness is irreplaceable.

If you could impart a piece of advice to a female student on Grounds today, what would you tell her? Get involved in everything you have ever wanted to try. Do what makes you uncomfortable or what you have been afraid to do. I still look back and wish I had taken more advantage of all that this special place has to offer.

Allie Edmonds (Daughter)

Tell us a few things about yourself (family, current studies/hobbies, things that bring you joy).

I am a senior at St. Anne’s-Belfield School in Charlottesville and will finish my 14th year at the school before I head to UVA in the fall to join the Class of 2024. Throughout high school, I have found joy playing field hockey and lacrosse for St. Anne’s, singing and performing in the school musicals and with my acapella group, and running.

How did you decide to apply to/come to UVA?

Born in New York City, I moved to Charlottesville at the age of four. My parents are two proud UVA alumni who met as undergraduates. I have spent almost every weekend for the past 14 years at a UVA football, basketball, or lacrosse game and I could not imagine myself anywhere else. My parents also could not speak more highly of their experiences at UVA and it made me want to experience it for myself.

If you could ask a current female student or alum for a piece of advice, what would you ask her? 

I would ask a current female student or alum if there are any aspects of the University that they regret not having experienced. With so many opportunities, I would want to know what the student wishes she had not missed or tried during her years at UVA. Whether it be a club, class, or activity, I want to ensure that I live my UVA experience to the absolute fullest.

Tell us a few things about yourself (family, job, things that bring you joy).

I consider myself bicoastal! I grew up in the Bay Area during the first half of my life and lived in Virginia for the second half. I’m grateful to have lived on both coasts because it pushed my perspective on what diversity truly is. It goes beyond just racial lines and reflects a mix of culture, backgrounds, religions, status, etc. Having this exposure has given me a profound respect and love for people.

What was your journey after leaving UVA?

My journey after leaving UVA hasn’t necessarily looked like most stories. In theory, I never truly left UVA. After graduate school and between coaching transitions, I had the opportunity to keep building our Women’s Basketball program. Looking back, I’m not sure how I survived the transition—I was finishing up grad school courses and learning the ins and outs of my job.

In your opinion, what is the legacy of women on UVA?

The legacy of women at UVA is defined by transformation, determination and will. Women have fundamentally changed this University, a University that has been marked predominantly by men. But women have paved the way and found ways to be barrier breakers. The legacy of women at UVA is marked by courage and boldness. It is marked by empowerment. The legacy of women at UVA is one where boundaries are constantly being redefined and the “norm” is being pushed. It’s a legacy that’s never defined by the standards of a “successful” male or the belief that your time at UVA is the pinnacle of your life. My power comes from my ability to dream and grow into the best person I can be; the best woman I can be.

What does the UVA alumnae community mean to you? How have fellow alumnae affected your life/career/journey? I’m always amazed by how the alumni and UVA communities are always willing to show up for each other. UVA is at the crux of really trying to navigate its past and present. But wherever I go, I find that this University always finds a way to rally around each other.

If you could impart a piece of advice to a female student on Grounds today, what would you tell her?

If you believe you can’t do it, why? I was given this quote this year and have really sought to keep it close to me: “You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’” – Eleanor Roosevelt.

What is your favorite UVA memory?

I met my husband at UVA and we got married in 1954. I graduated in 1951 from the School of Nursing and before I graduated, I was made charge nurse of a private floor at the UVA hospital. I had patients from all over the world and I have loved nursing all my life. For a long time, the diploma nurses at UVA were not recognized, so I got to walk the Lawn in the 1990s.

Is there something you learned at UVA that you apply to your life now?

I’ve nursed all my life. I mean, I’ve had people call me most every day for something or another. I just counseled someone this morning. I don’t do anything dangerous, just help people get through tough times. And I took care of my mother and my mother-in-law and I raised 4 children, and then I took care of my husband who was wheelchair-bound for two and a half years before he passed away.

Tell us a few things about yourself (family, job, things that bring you joy).

I walk. I’ve been doing yoga for 47 years and I go to a trainer once a week, and I also go to acupuncture once a week. I’m on the board of the Fralin Museum and do some meditation there. I’ve got a wonderful family. My youngest daughter is 50 and she lives in Richmond. My husband died four years ago after being married 61 years and it’s hard, but I have a good support system and a wonderful church whose kitchen I’ve worked in for 45 years. I cook dinner for people there all the time now.

If you could impart a piece of advice to a female student on Grounds today, what would you tell her?

Empathy, respect. We are all here together and we all need to serve others. We need to respect others.

What was your journey after leaving UVA?

My husband Randy and I grew up in Charlottesville, but we were five years apart. Even though we graduated from the same high school we never knew each other. We met at UVA, got married, and had three babies. Our first two were born while we lived on Copeley Hill in student housing. After my husband’s graduation, we moved to Pennsylvania, then New Jersey, then Houston, Texas. While we were there, we met another couple, and the husband was complaining about being transferred to a little town in Virginia called Charlottesville.  And I said to him, “Oh my gosh! You and Randy are in parallel positions! Why don’t we see if he can move instead of you?” So they transferred us and we got to come to Charlottesville. And that was ‘58. So, we had a house built. And I’m still living there myself.

What is your favorite UVA memory?

I grew up singing in junior choir at First Methodist Church from the time I was six years old. From junior choir on up into the senior choir, I’ve sung with a lot of groups.  During the war, I sang with Magical Singers. The group was created because there were not enough men left in the University Glee Club to hold a concert due to the war, so they recruited girls in Nursing who could sing, and they called us Magical Singers. The dean at the time started the Magical Singers so that he could include women, and we gave concerts at Cabell Hall.

Is there something you learned at UVA that you apply to your life now?

Having a wonderful husband and three children is kind of like your golden life. You want a happily ever after, you know? My husband was a civil engineer who worked for a big corporation and he ultimately passed away; I’m so thankful to be a nurse because I could take care of all his needs up until the last days. We were married 60-something years. That’s your goal in life. If you want to be a caregiver, you want to be the best. And you want to do that for your family.

If you could give a piece of advice to a current female student at UVA, what would it be? Whatever field you want to continue the rest of your life, choose that and then go to the proper school, whether it be nursing, medicine, engineering. If you graduate from UVA, you’ll be accepted anywhere in the world. Your degree from UVA opens the door to anything that you want to do.

How did you decide to come to UVA?

I grew up in Richmond.  Because I wanted to go to college to become a nurse, my in-state choices were MCV (Medical College of Virginia, now VCU) or UVA.  I wanted to go away from home so I did not apply to MCV, located in Richmond.  Women could not attend UVA School of Nursing until our 3rd year of college.  First we were required to attend a Virginia women’s college that provided the curriculum that UVA required.  I attended Mary Washington College of the University of Virginia in Fredericksburg (now Mary Washington University).

Is there something you learned at UVA that you apply to your life now?

My respect for honor and truthfulness has guided my life.  As an Honor Committee member from the School of Nursing, being honest and living a life that can be respected have been guiding principles.

In your opinion, what is the legacy of women on UVA?

Coming from a time when women were not admitted to the university, I believe women’s legacy is that they belong at the table of all groups.  Women add another dimension that improves the experience of all students.

If you could impart a piece of advice to a female student on Grounds today, what would you tell her?

Be involved. Be fearless. A young woman can become anything in today’s world.

What is your UVA story?

I was born and raised in Albemarle County and have been a big UVA sports fan (particularly women’s basketball) as long as I can remember. After college (at Tufts University, not here), I moved back to town and took a series of jobs that got me interested in the public education system and, in particular, how inequities play out there. That’s how I got to Curry’s Social Foundations of Education program. After graduate school, I started working in diversity and equity at UVA and I’ve been here since.

What does the UVA alumnae community mean to you?

As part of my job in the Division for Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion, I’ve been able to work with a UVA alumni group called the IDEA Fund. I have gotten to know an incredible group of alumnae who volunteer their time because they have a passion for the issues of inclusion, diversity, equity, and access.

In your opinion, what is the legacy of women at UVA?

We shaped it and are still shaping it. We tend to want to look at progress as inevitable, but it isn’t. It was never a forgone conclusion that women would be accepted at UVA. In 1967 the Editorial Board of The Cavalier Daily is advocating for preserving the “gentleman’s club atmosphere” at UVA and sending women to a separate school located off Grounds. UVA is only what it is today because particular women knew this was wrong and persisted for over a hundred years in trying to correct it. In most instances of UVA’s history where people pushed UVA to get better, women played a substantial role.If you could impart a piece of advice to a female student on Grounds today, what would you tell her? Spend less time on and thinking about social media, and more time in person with friends.

Tell us a few things about yourself (family, job, things that bring you joy).

I was born and raised in New Jersey. I earned my B.A. from UVA in three years with a major in global studies and concentration in global development. I am currently pursuing my Master of Public Policy in the Frank Batten School of Leadership & Public Policy. In moments where I am not being a student or an athlete (I am a member of the women’s basketball team), I enjoy journaling, cooking and listening to music. There are two things that bring me true joy in life: 1. Seeing people grow and reveal untapped potential 2. Giving other people hope, inspiration and joy. 

How did you decide to come to UVA?

Coming out of high school, I was blessed to have many options for where I could continue my academic and athletic careers. UVA was the final school that I visited before making my decision. I remember wandering around Grounds with my mother and commenting on the beauty and character of the place. There was a warm and inviting feeling that we had just from walking and touring. Ultimately, I decided UVA was the place to be because I felt that it was sincere in its promise that I could be a student-athlete…that I could excel in the classroom, engage in different programs and opportunities on Grounds, while having an opportunity to make history on the court. Most importantly, the people I encountered on my visit let me know that I would be surrounded by coaches, teammates, classmates, faculty and staff that would be invested in and supportive of my endeavors on and off the court. 

Tell us about a woman/women at UVA who inspires you.

I have had the opportunity to be influenced and inspired by many women in my time at UVA. One that comes to mind is our Director of Athletics, Carla Williams. She is a trailblazer in college athletics who models what it looks like to lead with class and grace. It has been utterly impressive to watch her develop a vision for the athletics department and cultivate buy in and mobilize those around her to execute that vision. 

In your opinion, what is the legacy of women on UVA?

Women at UVA have a legacy of being fierce advocates, trailblazers and tireless workers to make the University, and the experiences within it, better for current and future members of the community.

If you could ask a female graduate for one piece of advice, what would you ask her?

I would ask for advice on the initial transition into post-grad life and the best way to search for and land the first job. 

Is there anything related to women’s history at the University that you would like to learn more about?

I’m curious about the day-to-day experiences of women throughout the generations—women in athletics, women in Greek Life, women in administration, women who are professors, etc. I wonder what their experiences were like and how they've changed over time.

Tell us a few things about yourself (family, job, things that bring you joy).

 I was born in Dhaka, Bangladesh, and have lived in the United States since I was young. I work as a Program Coordinator for Multicultural Student Services at UVA, where I provide programming and support for the APIDA (Asian/Pacific Islander/Desi American) and Middle Eastern/North African student communities. I interact with and manage a wide variety of services sponsored by our office, such as peer mentoring, leadership development, peer education, student organization support, and individual student support. I enjoy how I am continuously learning and being challenged to think critically about student development and serving communities that have been historically marginalized at the University.

What did you do when you were a student at UVA?

I was a member of various Asian-based cultural organizations, including the Asian Student Union, OYFA (the Organization of Young Filipino Americans) and VSA (the Vietnamese Student Association). I was also a Resident Advisor (for two years) and then the Senior Resident of the International Residential College during my fifth year. Additionally, I was involved in the Asian Pacific American Leadership Training Institute as a member of the cohort during my first year and then spent my second through fourth years on the facilitator team assisting in the development and delivery of weekly sessions about leadership through social change and identity development.

Tell us about a woman/women at UVA who inspires you – now, or during your time on Grounds.

A woman who inspires me is my boss, Vicki Gist, Associate Dean of Students and Director of Multicultural Student Services. Her devotion to students is something I strive for in my own work. She cares about the holistic existence and wellbeing of our students and has always been a consistent advocate. The intentional, thoughtful, and dedicated manner in which she interacts with and supports marginalized communities on grounds is truly admirable and I am grateful for the opportunity to work with and learn from her!  

Is there anything related to women’s history at the University that you would like to learn more about?

I would love to learn more about the history of women of color/women with various intersecting identities and their lives at the University. I think it’s very important to intentionally center the stories of those who have been historically marginalized, as these accounts are essential in providing a sense of communal resilience to others who carry similar identities. 

What are your favorite UVA memories?

The Restoration Ball and dancing on the balcony of the Rotunda. At times, it seemed difficult to meet others and make friends as I transferred mid-way through from Mary Washington College. I lived at Mary Munford Hall, which was the only women’s dormitory at the time and was the farthest away on Grounds. But one time, it was raining when I came out of Old Cabell Hall and a first year offered to walk me back to Mary Munford Hall with his large umbrella. I also enjoyed attending Football games and fraternity parties (UVA did not have sororities then). I never opened a door unless I was by myself. I met my first husband at UVA, and we often went together to social events. There had been female nursing students as well as graduate students before I started at UVA, but there were no women in any of my classes except in the education classes. 

Is there something you learned at UVA that you apply to your life now?

The importance of listening. And remembering and appreciating the touch you have received from those who listened to you.

What does the UVA alumnae community mean to you? How have fellow alumnae affected your life/career/journey?

Whenever we connect by phone or on Grounds, it’s a happy occasion and a reminder of how fortunate we are to have attended UVA. It will always be here for us.

In your opinion, what is the legacy of women on UVA?

Change can be the best. Changing direction turns on the lights and creates new paths for all of us.

If you could impart a piece of advice to a female student on Grounds today, what would you tell her?

Learn, share, STUDY and be a friend. Keep learning. Know that your choices make a difference. Make the most of this time. Keep in touch. You are accepted today and for many years will be thankful for this time at UVA. Laugh and be thankful.

What is your UVA story?

I graduated from the University of Virginia School of Nursing before full coeducation. Bachelor of Science degrees in nursing in Virginia were only offered at the Medical College of Virginia (MCV –now VCU Medical Center)in Richmond and UVA. My mother was teaching at MCV, plus I wanted a residential collegeexperience. So it was UVA for me. I did my two years of pre-nursing at Mary WashingtonCollege. My future husband Keith and I started at UVA at the same time, sharing manywonderful times at the University.

What is your favorite UVA memory?

My favorite memory was getting my diploma in the Rotunda, the culmination of four years of hard work. Another favorite memory was dating Keith with the restrictions we female students had, such as not being allowed to wear pants or shorts on Grounds. Finding places to date was also a challenge.

Tell us about a woman/women at UVA who inspires you – now, or during your time on Grounds.

Nursing students formed a close bond with each other. McKim Hall was a dorm, classrooms, labs and faculty offices. Plus, it was attached by a breezeway to the hospital where we did our clinical. We took an elective each semester and I looked forward to the change of scenery on those days. Spending so much time with our fellow classmates and the close bond that was formed led to my involvement in the School of Nursing Alumni Association and the UVA Alumni Association. One woman who inspired me while I was a student was Dr. Phyllis Verhonick, who came to the School of Nursing to teach a new course in nursing research, one of the first in a BSN program in the U.S. She was one of the first two doctoral prepared faculty in nursing at UVA and she inspired all of us to incorporate clinical research into our work. Another person I would add is Dr. Barbara Brodie. She was a mentor for me as faculty and I saw her inspire many women and men who were pursuing advanced nursing degrees at UVA.

If you could impart a piece of advice to a female student on Grounds today, what would you tell her?

My advice for current students is to take advantage of the wonderful opportunities offered that interest you. And when you graduate, stay connected and find ways to pass on to future students some of what you have gained here.

How did you decide to come to UVA?

I visited the Lawn as part of a class field trip in sixth grade, and it was love at first sight! My teacher told me it was only for men, but I always believed that would change by the time I was ready for college. As it turned out, I was a senior in high school when the Board of Visitors voted to admit 450 transfers and first-year women to the University. The lawsuit alleging discrimination against women in the admissions process piqued my interest in discrimination law, and that has been my principal area of legal practice for over 35 years.

What did you do when you were a student at UVA?

The University administration encouraged us to join all the organizations on Grounds and "coeducate" them as quickly as possible. I was on the Cavalier Daily staff (serving as Features Editor my third year), I served on Student Council and I was a Resident Advisor for upperclass women on Monroe Hill, now called Brown College. I was among the first women in the Government and Foreign Affairs Honors Program (with classmate Larry Sabato!). I also was in the Raven Society and Phi Beta Kappa.

What was your journey after leaving UVA?

After graduating in 1974, I attended the Graduate School and got an M.A. in Government. I worked for several years as a regional economic development planner and a legislative aide for a state senator, and in 1980 I returned to UVA to attend law school. I finally settled in Richmond, Virginia, where I worked for Hunton & Williams, an international corporate law firm. I retired from the partnership several years ago and since then have divided my time between pro bono legal work and volunteer work for the University.

Is there something you learned at UVA that you apply to your life now?

There was so much I learned at UVA! Some of the most valuable lessons were the importance of listening to a broad range of views and how to dispassionately analyze facts to reach a decision. I also learned how to work in a predominately male environment—good training for working in a large private firm in the "old days."

If you could impart a piece of advice to a female student on Grounds today, what would you tell her?

My advice would the same advice that UVA gave me and my female classmates: first, focus on your academic program, and with any time remaining, be a joiner. Get involved with several organizations, both for what you can contribute and what you will gain from the experience.